my mom says it’s OK

Bob and I were shopping yesterday when I happened to spy a young boy in the self-serve bakery.  I had seen him before on another shopping trip blithely munching on a cookie.  I stood and watched him as he eyed the cabinet, looked both ways, and then reached in and took a doughnut, closed the door with one hand, then brought the stolen treasure up to his lips and took a bite.

He clearly saw me looking at him and didn’t seem in the least fazed.  I approached him, I couldn’t help myself, and said, “You know that taking that doughnut is stealing.”

To which he replied:

“It’s OK, the store lets you do it, and my mom says it’s OK.”

I was flabbergasted!  I told him that it is not OK to take things without paying for them.  He went on to say that he would tell his mother and she would pay for it.

Later as I passed the checkout lanes I spied the doughnut kid and his mother.  Again I couldn’t help myself… I went up to the boy and said, “Hey, did you tell your mother about that doughnut you ate?”  Amazingly, his mother said, “Is that the woman you told me about?”  and then to me, “I always let him get something and then I pay for it when we leave.”

“I see.”  I said, and turned to walk away.  Here is where I think it got really weird…

Suddenly this big hulk of a man came up to me and asked if I knew that boy and I told him no.  Then he says in a booming voice, “That’s not cool lady!  That’s not cool, she could have gone off on you!”


You know how it is with snappy come backs.  You never think of them until you are long gone.  Two things came to mind later.  The safe answer would have been “Yes.”  And the smart-ass retort would have been, “Then we are both glad that he was not your son.”  I concede that the latter would have been, very “uncool”.

The whole situation left me thinking, when is it cool to steal even just a doughnut or a cookie?  What kind of message are you sending when you allow your child to take what they did not pay for?  Aren’t you setting him up to believe that the little items don’t count, and that it is OK to steal?

The thing is, they do count and in a big way!  In 2014 alone *25 large retailer’s losses were approximately $44.2 billion (based on a University of Florida survey).  That’s BILLIONS not hundreds, or thousands, or even millions, but billions.

Some may think,

“Well what’s it to me? They are big corporations who factor in shrinkage (see below) and they can afford the losses”

But they can’t, and in the end guess who pays for those losses?  We do.  We pay for every doughnut, pair of jeans, small appliance and more in higher prices when we shop.

So when we choose to turn our backs to even the petty theft ,and not say anything just because it is a kid, then we are agreeing to allow the child to continue to steal and to paying more for our goods in the future.

Now that, my friends, is uncool.

Oh yes, and as it happens we ended up in the line the boy and his mother were in and Bob realizing who she was asked if I wanted to choose another line.  I said, No.  The mother looked up and the end of the checking process, saw me, and then said,

“Oh, and did you get that doughnut for my son?”

The checker said “No mam.” and added it to her total.

English: A plain glazed donut. This was bought...


SHRINKAGE:  The loss of inventory that can be attributed to factors including employee theft, shoplifting, administrative error, vendor fraud, damage in transit or in store and cashier errors that benefit the customer. Shrinkage is the difference between recorded and actual inventory. Definition quoted from Investopedia 


Two steps forward – one back

Today’s post will be a rambler, so bear with me…

But first, how about a little music from my youth to set the mood?

~ Donovan‘s First There is a Mountain ~  

With deepest apologies to Donovan…

Look  upon my Farmlet there’s been a thief, that’s what it was.
Look  upon my Farmlet there’s been a thief, that’s what it was.
First there was a trailer, then there was no trailer, then there was.
First there was a trailer, then there was no trailer, then there was.
The caterpillar sheds his skin to find a butterfly within.
Caterpillar sheds his skin to find a butterfly within.
Ah, my-my.


It would seem that sometime between Wednesday afternoon’s roof inspection, and yesterday’s work session, that someone took it upon themselves to *liberate us of our little trailer.  It is only big enough to carry the lawnmower.  Hence, without it we would have to leave the lawnmower.

Now that there had been a theft we no longer felt confident to leave it up there!

The locals say that theft is rare up on the mountain, but like anywhere else it can happen.  So, after making a police report, there was nothing for it but to go off to Tractor supply and purchase a new one.  We were pleasantly surprised to find that our model was on sale and this saved us $100.00.  Still, the money spent was money we don’t have for other needed things this month.


Our morning was now shot, but we set to work in the hours we had remaining.  Bob began the puzzle of building bones for the crooked wall in the bathroom, and I went out and finished the mowing around the house.  Everyone that comes to the Mountain Farmlet to work admonishes us to “Keep that grass cut short around your house and outbuildings so the snakes will stay away!”  Ah!  Now I understand the old adage about “A snake in the grass”  but I guess mowing doesn’t work on the two-legged kind.

When I was done I checked to see if Bob needed my help.  He said “No.”  So I went to the woods with the dogs in tow.  Because the land is a very long piece of property I estimate the trail’s loop to be one half to three-quarters of a mile when you walk it.

The trail is little traveled for the moment and always full of spiders.  On previous treks I had tried using a stick to rid the way of spiders, but their webs are hard to see and very strong!   It is very creepy to try to pull them off of your face and out of your hair, so I devised a tool to use.  I took an old, rather large umbrella and removed the fabric from it.  Now when I walk I hold its spines out in front and they catch the invisible webs, spiders and all!   This is a strange but true fact:  When I am done I hang it near the trail and when I come back the spiders *and all the webs are gone!   Weird, but nice.  I love a self-cleaning tool.  😉

Returning with the dogs, I then put them on the back porch and grabbed my camera.  Before I left for the second walk I told Bob to ring the old farm bell to let me know when he was done and ready to go.

I have been here three times and never saw this bell until I took the previous picture!

Love that old farm bell!

Found along the way ~


  1. Apparently, the high protein substance of spider webs is a high energy product to produce.  Therefore, many spiders eat the silk to conserve energy for production of the next day’s web.
  2. *Hickory Tussock moths carry a poison substance in the barbed hairs on their backs.  It is said that it can cause a serious irritation in some individuals.  I did not want to test this, and therefore left the little beastie on the side of the trash bin. 😉
  3. The little trailer was heavily cabled to the car port structure… so they had to come back with bolt cutters!  😐
  4. And yes, even at the furthest point on the trail I could hear that bell.  Simply old-fashioned and wonderful!